The life that we live

During the holidays family always wants to be together so how do you split it up if you are in a relationship? This is something you have to come to an agreement on or it can cause tension between the two of you making the holiday season not so bright. When I was married my mom was pretty flexible about when we would see her and my dad lived kind of far so I would see him sometime within a week of Christmas. I usually let my ex-husband decide if he wanted Christmas Day or Christmas Eve with his family but I know some families only have a big gathering or meal on one of the days. I tend to celebrate on both days so I was open to which ever he chose, however if this is a problem with your families maybe suggest they come to you. You can celebrate both days inviting both families on one day or one family on the Eve and one family on the Day of Christmas. This way everyone gets to see you and everyone is happy. It’s hard when you are a young couple with no children because the family generally wants to keep you all to themselves, not quite ready to let you go. It is a little easier when you have kids because then you are starting your own family traditions. I generally cook both days and invite everyone over. This year my mom is cooking on the eve and I am cooking on the day. I can’t wait for this years celebrations. It’s going to be wonderful and my significant other will be with me on both days. His family lives in another state so this is not an issue for me any more but even if it was, I am adaptable.