Stumble It!Nov 11 2008
When do you say good bye?
A man who has decided he is only going to be friends with you is not likely to change his mind. No amount of sweet little flirting, special dinners, or skimpy outfits are going to change his mind. If you have your heart set on some stud that you have been friends with but he has told you it can only be friends he means it. He isn’t playing games with you, he isn’t trying to tease you, he just doesn’t feel that way about you.
Men are serious when it comes to love, real love that is. If they don’t see things going any where with you and they tell you they are being completely honest and anything they may say or do that seems like a little message to the contrary is a misunderstanding by you. They may care for you a great deal, or even love you, but if they say friendship is as far as it will go I would bet that they mean it. Men aren’t wired like women. A woman can say she only wants to be friends but deep down wonder, “well maybe this could be more”. Men who see a woman as a friend only see her as a friend. If you are dolling up and putting on a fake smile when he is around just to get his attention you are waisting your time. If this is the man you have your hopes on you are bound to get your heart broken so turn and RUN away, don’t walk but run.
Now I won’t say that this is a guaranteed %100 sure thing but I would bet more often on what I just said than not. Don’t get me wrong if things start out as a relationship that is ended on a mutual agreement there may still be a chance that he wants more than friends. If things started out headed for a relationship and something happened that you could only be friends I believe there could be a chance. But if he starts out by telling you “we can be friends” he means it.
If your hopes are hung on a “just friends” guy I’m afraid to tell you it’s time to say good bye. If you can’t be just friends then move on because you will only get your heart broken if you don’t. I have had several guy friends over the years and I know this to be true. My best friend growing up confided in me that he had been saddened because he had lost good friends because they wanted more and he couldn’t make himself do something that he just didn’t feel right about. When men make up their mind it’s pretty hard to change it. When it comes to this I wouldn’t try it because you are going to loose.
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This is really a tough one. It is hard to be “just friends” with the opposite gender (unless they are gay). You think you can do it, but it isn’t easy - at least for women because we are more emotional. And then if you do manage it and get someone else in your life, they may not understand a male friend.
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That’s a good article and it made me think.
Well yea you are right where if a guy says he isn’t interested, then he means it.
But let me tell you one story that I heard of.
There was a guy and a girl. They were best friends, in college together. They never liked each other. But due to their closeness, their parents tried to get them married saying that they wont find anyone else. But both of them refused. They decided to find a spouse for each other.
So, they went on their mission and a few years passed. The boy had a girlfriend first. And he started hanging out more with his girlfriend, which makes sense. But then his friend (the girl), started getting jealous. That’s when she realized that she liked him. But she didnt tell anyone and went on with life. She even had a boyfriend about 6 months later and she was going to get engaged. That’s when the boy (the friend), started getting jealous and developed feelings for her.
I mean I know it may sound kind of cheesy but all I wanted to say was that if a guy and a girl are friends, you may sometimes not know what love is and may even deny it (as in this case).